Feel safe, secure and self confident after loss

Enrollment closes on 30th November at 23.59 PM.

Tired of feeling exhausted, overwhelmed and anxious with grief?

It’s time to stop navigating through this alone, and to feel supported through this rollercoaster ride of grief. So that you can feel more aware, more self-compassionate and self-assured with my step-by-step grief coaching system.

(You deserve to have your needs met, to be seen, and to be supported through everything you’re going through)

No pitches. No pressure. I promise.

You don’t know how you’re supposed to feel confident, safe, or secure when the person who supported you the most is no longer here.

They were your biggest cheerleader.

Since losing them, you are grieving so much. The loss of your self, your identity, your self-confidence, and your sense of safety

You feel untethered and lost.

You’re struggling with anxiety and self esteem after loss.

You’re struggling with jealousy, need for control, boundaries (too high or too low), seeking external validation, avoidance or comparison after loss.

You’re exhausted by the constant ups and downs of grief, and you’re feeling on edge, and overwhelmed by everything.

You’re lost and feel so alone.

You’ve been masking, numbing, and avoiding your grief. Maybe because your job is quite busy, you can’t help but avoid, but also because you have been trying to fill your life up with anything to feel anything but the grief. Alcohol, work, shopping, Netflix, holidays, family, life is busy, but your grief is SCREAMING to be felt. It’s exhausting.

You know that you can’t keep going like this, and your grief is making you feel anxious and so not like you, which is making matters worse. Your boundaries are all over the place, and you feel like you don’t recognise yourself.

Anxiety.

Comparison.

Anger and frustration.

There isn’t an area of your life that grief hasn’t impacted.

Let me walk you through what's possible for you just 3 months after joining…

You understand and honour your grief needs, rather than reject and avoid grief.

You have the tools to self soothe themselves in those particularly griefy moments, or after a trigger. You can support your nervous system during those frantic moments AND during those low and heavy moments.

You feel less anxious and finally understand why you're feeling this way. You feel less self-critical and more self love which is supporting you through grief.

You’re starting to feel confident and self assured that you can support yourself through whatever comes your way.

And most importantly, you no longer feel as alone, because you have a community around you who ‘get it’.

You’re ready to feel less anxious but you’ve got a lot of questions!

“Grief is so overwhelming, where would I even begin?”

“I don’t have any energy and feel so heavy with sadness, how could I ever feel anything but this?”

“This seems really hard, I don’t have a plan to follow”

I know, there can be a lot of questions and confusion with grief, because it’s so overwhelming and so exhausting. If you don’t have a have the right guidance or enough support, it can feel easier to try and avoid and escape your reality with anything and everything, we can easily become more lost, more overwhelmed, and more stuck. Without trauma-informed guidance and support, it can be difficult to feel safe and secure.

That’s why I’ve created my step by step course, SAFE.

SAFE: Navigating the path to more safety, security and self confidence after loss

Life with grief before you feel safe and secure.

  • Lonley

  • Overwhelming

  • Easily irritated and sometimes explosive

  • Feeling co-dependent

  • Finding it hard to trust others

  • Tricky friendships

  • Comparison

  • Feeling like you don’t recognise or like yourself

  • Anxious

  • A ‘spiky’ nervous system which is up and down and super reactive

  • Feeling understood and supported in a safe group of people who ‘get it’

  • You have the tools to support yourself with triggers and through the various challenges of grief and the secondary losses you’re facing

  • Feeling more self-assured

  • Knowing how to support yourself with boundaries, navigate tricky conversations, and rebuild relationships with loved ones

  • Feeling connected with your loved one, whilst navigating any guilt, bargaining, questions, and detachment

  • Holding yourself more kindly, and more calmly

  • Feeling aware of your nervous system needs and knowing how to support yourself

Life with grief after you feel safe and secure.

What’s included in SAFE?

There is no other trauma-informed programme out there designed to support you through grief holistically, nor with a dedicated approach to anxiety after loss.

  • Weekly Training + Homework

    Each week for 6 months, you will receive a training video, resources, and homework to guide you in a structured and supportive way.

  • Weekly Group Coaching

    Every single week we will hop on a call and you will get dedicated coaching and all of your questions will be answered, all obstacles are addressed!

  • 1:1 Coaching

    There are 4 key milestones during the 6 month programme, where you'll share a specific part of your progress with me, and you and I will book onto a 1:1 call to review and check-in.

  • Guest Experts

    You will receive guest trainings from experts who understand grief, including a Doctor, Counsellor, Somatic Therapist, Parts Therapist, and Grief Yoga Teacher.

  • 24/7 Private Community

    Ask your questions and connect with others who 'get it'! You do not have to navigate through this alone.

  • Mind + Body Support

    You will receive tools that you can reuse FOREVER, including meditations, body and breathing practices.

You can do the programme from home, from your bed, from work, from your car, or from anywhere in the world, and on your own schedule.

You can complete the course lessons from the comfort of your couch or kitchen table, as long as you have an Internet connection! The entire programme is completely digital so you can access it from anywhere through our private course portal. And you'll never miss a beat: you can go at your own pace and do the lessons on your schedule.

How long does it take to feel less anxious and more safe after loss?

The honest answer is, it depends on you and your current situation. Most of my clients start to feel shifts in a couple of months, others might take a few extra months to feel less anxious and more safe, secure and confident.

There is no rush and no right or wrong amount of time, because you have lifetime access to the video trainings and all future updates! Remember, this isn't a "quick fix" by any means.


We recommend you set aside 1-3 hours per week to go through the programme and implement the work.

Not sure if SAFE is right for you?

If you tick these 5 points, this course was MADE for you.

  1. You’re a woman who has lost an integral person in your life, this person you lost made you feel safe, supported and confident and now you’re feeling lost without them

  2. You are overwhelmed by grief and are experiencing a lot of trauma responses (see the picture to the right)

  3. You feel anxious, and not like yourself

  4. You’re open to mind and body work

  5. You’re ready to find a new way forward with your grief that doesn’t avoid avoidance

Why start today instead of waiting another

6 months?

Starting now will allow you to access the tools you need to navigate the anxiety and low self confidence you’re experiencing. Delaying this will mean you just become more lost, more stuck and more overwhelmed, and 6 months from now, you’ll wish you had started today!

navigate the path to safety, security and more confidence after loss

navigate the path to safety, security and more confidence after loss

Weekly live calls (subject to change): Wednesdays at 7pm BST

Monthly Grief Yoga (subject to change): Thursdays at 6pm BST

When you join SAFE you’ll…

  • Become super self aware of how grief has changed you, and all of the secondary losses that are affecting you so that you can truly understand what you need and shut off all the noise.

  • Learn how to feel less anxious and more secure in the world after loss. 

  • Cultivate self compassion for everything you’ve been going through.

  • Create a personalised self-soothing strategy toolkit to help you to support your nervous system and create a calmer body and mind

  • Become more capable of handling any triggers that come your way.

  • Connect with your loved one so that you feel guided by them when you need them.

With all of this and more, we will navigate the path to more safety, security and self confidence after loss.

These tools will support you with your grief forever.


Want to know what happens when you don’t join SAFE?

Two things can happen…

  1. Nothing. Nothing happens, you stay stuck.

  2. Things get messy, we get more lost, more detached, more anxious and more stuck. (This is what happened to me which I talk a little bit about below)

No pitches. No pressure. I promise.

The more I masked and numbed my grief, the less I knew myself.

I didn’t like myself. I didn’t want my grief. I was invalidating myself without realising it. I went from feeling connected, safe, supported and loved, to feeling vulnerable, lost and untethered the moment my dad died. And this feeling manifested year after year, the more I pushed my grief away.

Are you numbing or masking your grief?

You’re numbing and masking yourself.

This can show itself in many ways:

  • jealously and insecurity

  • worries about the future and about losing others

  • need for control

  • feeling inadequate with your grief ‘I’m not grieving correctly’, ‘ I haven’t turned my pain into a purpose, this must mean I’m behind or something is wrong with me’

  • avoidance and detachment from yourself

  • people-pleasing and seeking external validation

    And so many other blocks.

Can you relate to any?

Although it took my 5/6 years to understand how all of these issues I was facing related so heavily to the loss of my dad, I have now been able to find and develop inner security. More trust. More connection. Better boundaries. Confidence. Deep confidence. Freedom.

Do you want this for yourself?

Client feedback:

 

“I’ve felt a massive shift since working with Kayleigh. I now realise that I need to see myself with more compassion and patience, instead of judgement and hate. I’m less anxious and more connected to my dad”

— Katie

“This is such a safe container to really understand yourself. I came to Kayleigh after 3 years of grieving alone. I had created a very negative relationship with myself, and was constantly comparing myself to others and just feeling inadequate. I am now in a place of acknowledgement and acceptance with myself.”

— J.L

Understand your grief.

Reconnect with yourself.

Connect with your loved one.

 

Over the last 5 years, I’ve been working privately with many of people who are going through grief, and who have realised that grief isn’t just one loss; it’s a loss of your loved one, the loss of your identity, the loss of control, the loss of future plans, the loss of trust, and SO much more.

And all of that had resulted in lots of fear, anxiety and a sense of feeling stuck. And from my own experience with losing my dad, and losing (and refinding) myself along the way, I've helped so many people to unblock emotions that are keeping them stuck, change their relationship to grief so they can take back control, and come into alignment with who they are now after loss- all whilst deepening their connection to their loved one.

I help them get unstuck and step forwards safely with their grief.

No one tells you that grief changes you, but when you’ve lost someone who was like home to you, who as always the there, who believed in you, who validated you, who as honest with you, it’s impossible not to lose yourself. In an instant it’s like, ‘who am I?’ and ‘where is home?’

It’s exhausting and it’s unbelievably lonely, which is why I’m opening up this opportunity to learn the strategies I’ve previously only offered privately. If you’ve been struggling alone with feeling safe, confident and secure, then this is your opportunity to do something truly special for yourself.

“I feel exposed to the cold winds of life without my loved one. It makes me feel very vulnerable.”

Meet your video training guests:

  • Kayleigh O'Connor - Trauma-Informed Holistic Grief Coach

  • Dr Cordelia Peel - Mindset Coach

  • Alex Bottemley - Embodiment Coach

  • Emma Connally-Barklem - Grief Yoga Faciliator

  • Catherine Nabbs - Counsellor

  • Vicky Hockaday - Somatic Attachment Therapist

So… Here’s some of what we can work on:

  1. We’re going to be guided by my tried and tested SHINE system– which covers Self-Awareness, Self Compassion and Self Care (at the centre of our capacity to be emotionally safe), Holding Space (to deepen the connection with your loved one), Innerwork (critical right now), No Timeline, No Judgement, No rulebook (grief is as unique as you are), and Education (knowing what grief is, so you can communicate your needs and boundaries). You’re going to build self assurance which in turn will allow you to trust others, the world and yourself again.

  2. You’re going to learn how to come into a deeper relationship with yourself and with your grief, through your entire system (mind, body, energy, emotions). You’ll have options that nourish *your* needs and are underpinned by tools and systems that actually speak to the fact that grief isn’t just one loss . No more confusion, self-doubt or comparison.

  3. You’ll learn how to the mind and body has changed since your loss, how that’s playing into your lack of safety, and how to tap into your vagus nerve to downregulate your nervous system to create inner safety when you need it most. Plus you’ll have access to expertise from a medical doctor-turned mindset coach, who can help you to understand cognitive distortions and the chronic stress state grief has created. Simple tactics that you've never considered before.

  4. Do you know that we have to move towards our grief in order to move forwards with it? We’re going to work with Shadow Work to help you to better understand your grief, rather than numb it, avoid it or push it aside. From here you’ll be able to initiate a safer relationship with yourself based on love and understanding rather than fear and judgement. It could be the most powerful part of this programme ... and creates the sense of safety you deserve for your future!

  5. We’ll cover how to continue to resolve underlying pain, so that you can become regulated, embodied, safe and open – and why this process is *absolutely critical* for the lifelong nature of grief.

  6. I’ll teach you how to find a secure internal attachment so that you can self-soothe your grief and anxiety. You’ll learn how to be aware kind and responsive to your inner states and you’ll learn how to establish an inner secure bond.

  7. You are going to learn how to deepen the connection with your loved one so that you can continue your relationship with them. We’ll practice my signature Holding Space steps to safely remember your person, continue their legacy and feel their love.

 FAQs

  • The programme starts on Wednesday 7th December and finishes Wednesday 10th May.

  • Yes, you will have access to the video trainings forever. Your access to the live sessions will stop after your 5 month programme is completed.

  • I recommend at least 1 hour per week, but everything is recorded and available on replay, so if you miss something that’s absolutely no problem.

  • Yes. You will get access to a 24/7 private community for the entirety of the 5 month programme, you will get weekly group coaching calls and 4x 1:1 sessions with me at milestone moments throughout the programme.

  • There are no refunds. However I do offer a love it or leave it policy, which you can talk to me about on your application call.

  • £3200 for 6 months of support

  • Pay In full: £3,200

    Pay in 5: £640 x5

  • This programme is mix of independent self-study, group work, 1:1 and Voxer (voice and text) support. Which means even if you don’t come along to the group sessions, you’ll still gain a lot of value from this course.

    Some clients simply listen in to the group sessions, camera off, so that they can feel comfortable, but also gain the value of hearing from others. There’s no pressure to speak, or be on camera. You do what’s best for you.

  • I have a long waitlist for 1:1 so if you are looking for support now, I’d recommend joining this programme as you can still benefit from 1:1 support from me within this container.

This programme will give you holistic guidance for wherever you are at on your grief journey.

Deepen the connection with your loved one.

Trust others, the world and yourself again.

No more confusion, self-doubt or comparison.

Downregulate your nervous system to create inner safety.

Initiate a safer relationship with yourself based on love and understanding rather than fear and judgement.